The Chaos Theory


It’s funny how simple mistakes lead to the greatest disasters in life.  The Japanese sent the wrong message for unconditional surrender to the allied forces and ended up with two heavily desecrated cities from atomic bombing.  The German ship captain nearby heard the distress call from the Titanic “we are sinking!  we are sinking!” but being German mistook the message for that they were “zinking” (German English for “thinking”).  So the German captain replied “what are you zinking about? LOL.  So down the bottom of the Atlantic came the love that would have been for Leonardo and Kate.

 

Originally posted as “The Chaos Theory” on my early blog Casa de Mementos (http://joshavinante.multiply.com)

The Crusades

Bitter Sweet


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If I was a girl, I would fall head over heals.

With that guy next door strong enough to be my man.

I would express my love and be faithful to him.

And be taken for granted for it.

 

If I was a girl, I would wait long dragging minutes.

For that single text message of his assurance for his love.

Will stay away from pubs and boys.

While I wait.

 

If I was a girl, I will wait for eternity.

But will wait in vain.

Just when I would give up on him.

He would call and assure me of his love.

 

If I was a girl, I would send him multiple texts.

Telling him how much I love him and that I’m thinking of him.

But I will receive no reciprocation, neither by call or simple text.

And I will feel alone.

 

If I was a girl, I would feel helpless.

Contemplated to a life of misery.

I will lose my dignity.

And achieve nothing.

 

If I was a girl, I would think he turned off his phone.

Because he is not alone.

I would confront my love and ask for assurance.

But he will just laugh it off telling me I’m paranoid.

 

If I was a girl, I would think he isn’t taking me seriously.

Everytime he goes to bimbo-infested pubs without me.

I wouldn’t be enough to inspire him.

When he’s had a bad day at work.

So he goes out to drink by himself, in bimbo-infested pubs.

 

If I was a girl, my heart will be very dear to me.

More dear than some guy who don’t seem to care.

He can seem to live without me.

So why bother living with him.

 

If I was a girl, I will give him a second chance.

Because I still love him.

But he will take it for granted again.

Because I was so faithful to give him a second chance.

 

If I was a girl, I will leave him.

And break his comfort zone.

He comes chasing after me telling me that he loves me.

But that’s a story I’ve heard a million times.

 

If I was a girl, will I think that he did love me though in his own immature way?

He has hurt me so badly, will I trust him ever again?

Will I realize that I have changed him and turned his world upside down?

I do not know, because I am not a girl.

 

9.23.2009

Originally written on Casa de Mementos (http://joshvinante.multiply.com)

September 23, 2009

The Cafe of Memories


Dumaguete, Philippines

Dumaguete, Philippines

Against my will, I was assigned to Dumaguete in 2002 as a medical representative or territory manager, which ever term suits my eternally broken ego.  I joined the pharmaceutical industry hoping to enjoy the benefits of a new Toyota Corolla company car, corporate attire and serving the high falluting hospitals in Manila.  Instead, they sent me to the sleepy community of Dumaguete where national hero Dr. Jose Rizal himself was deported for subversion.  Well, that’s what I thought.  Dumaguete was a quiet community but its Siliman University gave it an interesting environment.  The students were pretty and fabulous in their own ways.  They came from different interesting cities like Cebu, Bacolod, Cagayan de Oro, Davao, Zamboanga and Cavite.  In fact, Miss Siliman was the most charming girl I’ve every seen.  Only that everybody thought she was a bitch.

Among my favorite places was the Cafe Memento, where I took the name of my Multiply website.  It was very rustic, a hole in a wall even, but intrinsically decorated with Spanish-Filipino art.  The owner was a Kastilaloy himself.  His father I would have combat drinking on certain nights together with his Kastilaloy buddies who looked like Bin Laden and someone else respectively.  Cafe Memento was located in a quiet street fronting the magnificent Siliman University and the ocean.  You could hear the splash of waves from there.

Cafe Memento is the cafe of memories.  Someday I will go back there and reminiscence the beauty of what once was a life I didn’t expect.

Saluda Dumaguete!

 

Originally written on Casa de Mementos (http://joshavinante.multiply.com)

February 10, 2009

 

Dancing Under the Pale Moonlight


Omnia Vincit Amor, meaning “Love Conquers All”. Virgil. Ironically, love could lead to disaster and end yourself up dancing with the devil under the pale moonlight, wreaking havoc on other people’s lives and yours too, until you find someone who will turn your world upside down. And when that happens, a place so sinister and foreign suddenly feels like home. And if that relationship fails, you reset to the beginning, the cycle repeats and you end up dancing with more devils. And as the kwentong bartender from Big Sky Mind goes, “Carry on compadre!”

My cool and wicked brother has asked me about drinking in Australia so let the story begin. Well, people drink for many reasons and besides that of seeing and being seen under the pretense of chilling out, you have to admit that it is actually to prey on something exciting to happen. For me, I had no choice. I’m back to dancing the devil although this time under the protection of the Almighty. I know now why he had to suffer which is to prove to us that he loves us and that we need not worry. So here I am dancing with the enemy without worries, well a little bit. But hey, danger comes in any form of excitement.

Castle Hill is a suburb some 60 minutes away from the city and of acceptable elegance. It is surrounded by other suburbs ending their names with “Hill” or “Hills”. They call us the Hills District. Hills is home. The good thing about Castle Hill is that there is only one place to rendezvous for drinks and that is the Hillside. On Fridays and Saturdays, clubbing happens upstairs at a very affordable price of AUD5.

Hillside Hotel is probably where I’ve met the most insane of people. Insane meaning cool. There is Ryan who lived a significant period of his life in South America. He calls me Fish because I drank his whiskey like one, and the name “Marlo” sounds like it apparently. One time, we all went to the Tavern from Hillside and got sloshed over too much beer and bourbon coke. He was kind enough to take me home in a taxicab, which I fucked up with orally thrown out Vaginal Brew (VB or Victoria Bitter) and cost him AUD270. Poor thing. Ryan is a very nice guy. Lesson, don’t throw up in a cab, no matter what happens! Not in Sydney!

There is Chris Bar, the fisherman, with his fixation on Icelandic chicks and Cricket. Actually, Chris works in a large fishing vessel and has an amiable circle of friends, including a guy eternally clad in a suit. Chris is great with stories to tell and has a kind heart too.

There is David, my awesome housemate, awesome because he calls me awesome too. Well, we do have to reciprocate a compliment. David is a gentleman in a big bike and works at the Hillside Hotel. He would invite me to have drinks with his friends when they visit the house once in a while. On certain days that I felt weary, he offered me a couple of beers from his eskie, eskee or however they spelt it in Aussie English. His girlfriend is a very nice brunette chick who would always say hi to me whenever she visited David in the house or saw me at the Hillside. She is lucky to have David and vice-versa.

There is the sea witch, that is the landlady, who eternally breaks into other people’s lives, in particular, OURS! She looks and sounds it. We all hate her but what can we do, she is after all the landlady! She is kind to me sometimes, brings me Flip food once in a while. She makes me mow the lawn which I get to do only during my very rare free time – that is when I’m not in school, away at work as a dish pig, or wasting valuable time procrastinating, HAR! HAR! She insists I missed a week’s payment which I know I didn’t. May the Holy Spirit enlighten her and save my beer money, errr … textbook funds, from disintegrating. Hush! Hush! MiJ! Hehe. But seriously, that money is set aside for two new textbooks I need for the upcoming assessments.

Then, there is my best friend from Perth, Australia. She is my classmate and loves cooking as well. She has the same color of her mug as mine, pastel brown and into olives and Italian cuisine. During Friday class, we have Chef Darren, who is very good in teaching, like your watching a good cooking show on TV. He is bubbly, British and passionate about cooking. He has this bible of culinary terms including Rouille, which he says is a key ingredient of Soup de Poisson or fish soup. He seems to be into Bacardi because that seems to be the consequence of us fucking up in the kitchen. We have to buy him one if we do. I guess it will be cool to drink with him one time so I’d better think of a way to fuck up, perhaps “accidentally” pour gasoline on that bitch of a dishwasher or some emo fashion-clad classmate. Har! Har! Anyways, one time, Kate and another classmate of mine had a couple of beers, which we brought to the school parking lot. In the morning, Kate remembered that there were cameras all over that area. We have not received any notice so far. Safe!

There is my Filipina classmate but she doesn’t drink. So why is she part of my story? Well, she is nice. That’s all. Hehe! And she seems to be the favorite prey of my international classmates who is new to western culture and “shocked” with the liberated stories of Filipinas in Manila Society.

There is my cousin Anjo, who gave me a push into Hillside clubbing upstairs for the first time. He is an angel. His girlfriend is nice to me too. I met her with blonde hair but now sports something jet black. I teased her being inspired by the teenage flick “Twilight”. It is from Anjo that I was immersed into Mexican cervezas like Sol and Corona. Anjo also introduced me to Woodstock Bourbon Coke. It was very potent. Anjo always had supplies in the fridge and told me I can get from anytime. God bless you Anjo. Hehe!

The other night, I met The Beatles at Hillside, and in their early 20s at that. Actually, they simply introduced themselves as such out of fun. Two of them were Kastilaloys, bearing the name of Aldeguer and Alcazar respectively. The Aldeguer guy looked like Dino Aldeguer but he didn’t know him. It was Danny that I jibed with a lot, the Aussie guy who claimed to be John Lennon. He loved my pick up lines and probably would work in Australia, perhaps. “Are you a dictionary? Because you just added meaning to my night” or “Do I have a bruise on my forehead? Because I saw you and fell … in love”. HAHAHAHAHA! FUCK!

There was this hot Italian girl whom I met during the same night. She reminded me of someone special. She was clad in black party dress and tan boots. Her name was very Italian which I could pronounce but had a hard time spelling. I was chicken shit to get her number though she was the first to talk to me and showed some bit of interest. Her smile was like that of Jennifer Love Hewitt and her dimples, God save me from desire! I can never forget the way she looked at me. Malandi, haha! Perhaps I will meet her again.

Finally, there is that elegant person who reminded me how scintillating it is to be in love. I’ve forgotten who I was after my terrible break up some three years ago. She is the reason why this place so sinister and foreign suddenly feels like home. I met her in the early days of winter. She bore the name of my mother and grandmother. Oooh! Meant to be! So high school, haha! Unfortunately, I was too tactless and immature to take care of that relationship. She was right. I didn’t let her go, she left. I deserve it because I took her for granted and distanced myself. I never had faith in love because of my past experiences with women. In the end, that doubt destroyed us from within and we fell apart. And the drinking part? Well, she likes drinking. Haha! Beeyah (meaning beer in Aussie English) and red wine. Now I’m addicted to cabernet sauvignon, which is way cheaper than a 6pack mind you. I buy a bottle for AUD7 once in a while. Good for the heart.

So moving forward, I now know what I want to do. I knew I always did, but somehow lost it along the way. I am a party animal and I belong to hospitality. I love culinary and will finish this course then do my apprenticeship. The rest, we’ll cross the bridge when we get there. No more bitching, just happy thoughts. Have you ever danced with the devil under the pale moonlight?

Originally posted 9.9.2009

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In a house party in Castle Hill, Sydney Area, New South Wales, Australia

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In a house party in Castle Hill, Sydney Area, New South Wales, Australia

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Under the pale moonlight at the Bull and Bush in Baulkham Hills, Sydney Area, New South Wales, Australia

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Random moments with Kelly Anne Bewicke. Castle Hill, New South Wales, Australia

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Random moments with Kelly Anne Bewicke. Castle Hill, New South Wales, Australia

Goodbye Carla!


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Dear Diary,

I saw Carla today. She is soooo cute!!! Kaya lang, she thinks I drink too much!

So from now on …

Goodbye Vodka!
Goodbye Rum Coke!
Goodbye Johnny Walker!
Goodbye Coopers!
Goodbye Carlton Draught!
Goodbye Toohey’s New!
Goodbye San Miguel!

Hmmm …

GOODBYE CARLA!

Lol

Surrounded by Fallen Leaves


Surrounded by Fallen Leaves
I always thought that women who flirted with part-time message handlers were fugly. Well, this one wasn’t. There she was clad in her white Pre-Med student uniform and standing between two ladies – a rose amongst thorns. Too good to be true.

It was an ordinary day when I set the eyeball date. The campus was a romantic place with all its Romanesque architecture and gardens. One attraction was the statue of the Querubin which was said to be the patron saint of homosexuals. The thought was rather disturbing but there was just the two of us surrounded by fallen leaves, scintillating silence and mystique of the lone statue. I could still remember the feeling.

Act 1:

Oh, did I mention that she had a boyfriend? Yes, she did. She said that she misses him. I could still remember the cheerless expression on her face. The thought of it was sad but not tragic. It was too early to fall head over heels. At this point, the excitement of courtship was all that mattered. In a few more days of dating, I forgot that the car I was driving her with was color coded, that is the vehicle was against curfew for the day until 7pm due to the last digit of my plate number . Far ahead were the figures of four sloppy looking clowns (a.k.a. MMDA Traffic Enforcers). They haven’t seen us so I had time to turn right and pretend to be parked in some corner of Kalayaan Street. A flyover made the area poorly illuminated. There was hardly anyone. She bit my right arm in a flirtatious way. I didn’t do anything about it. We just talked. One night, in the middle of one of our nightly telebabad (telephone conversation until the wee hours of the morning), she said it was over between her and the boyfriend. I didn’t take that as a sign either.

Act 2:

My memory is fuzzy but I think it was a break from the career dumps that ended our story. The new direction introduced me to new friends and routines. I spent less on phone conversations and ice cream dates and more on clubbing and staying out late. We simply lost the connection, just like that. Poof! Some months later, I remembered to call her up and say hello. Actually, I kind of missed her. Her answer was an evil laugh and said she had gotten back together with the boyfriend. For some reason, that laugh failed to inspire myself to rekindle an old friendship.

Act 3:

Some years passed and reached my late 20s without even noticing. I was emotionally more mature, email had become available to everyone and Friendster (before Facebook) had just been born. Consequently, she was among old friends I wanted to dig up. I could still remember that first email conversation.

Josh: Well, well, well! Look who we have here. =) You don’t seem to have changed, still charming as usual. How are you?

Cons: Well, some things do change. I’m getting married in a few days.

Originally written on 8.14.2008